Often times, we are stuck on the idea that the things we left behind were better than those we have at the moment. Each and everyone of us, if we care to be honest, has been at point where they wished they could go back to the things that they are familiar with. In such situations, we spend most of our time, time that we could be using to better ourselves and appreciate our current position, willowing in our make-belief world of a better past.
Personally, I have spent the last four months wondering how I would make it to the other side of my worries. I wondered if I would ever make new friends, if I would ever be connected to people in a significant way again. So, I made it my ambition to hold onto the fun and exciting memories that my past offered. I held on to the laughs, the wine, the sleepovers. And then there was this situation, I held onto for two years, because I thought he was perfect. Everyday I wondered what would have been and if it could still be, I held on to the stupid foolish stares and awkward laughs. For the love of me I held on with all I had in.
The reality is, your past is only glorious in your head. The relationship you thought was perfect had it’s own flaws. The only reason why you think it would be best to go back is because things aren’t that great at the moment. It is in such moments however, that your patience is tested. Your resilience and your ability to hold out for something better is determined by how long you stay in your current situation instead of turning back to the things that were familiar.
It is important to note that things only last for a season and a reason. The Universe and God (depending on which one you believe in) has a way of telling us that it is time to move along. Rifts start forming, you are replaced, you are displaced, all in an effort to get you to move. Our separation is usually a means through which the path to our elevation is set. If you make a mistake and look/walk back, you loose a hold of your opportunity for growth.
If you are ever at a point where your past seems like a better option than your current situation, please remember this, out minds have a tendency to create fantasies and manufacture ideas and memories. It filters all the negativity that the past had to offer and only focuses on the better things. If you ever find yourself focusing on the roses and forgetting the thorns, that is delusion of your past.